I quote a passage from Ephesians 4:22-24 (New International Version): 22 “You were taught, with regard to your former way of life, to put off your old self, which is being corrupted by its deceitful desires; 23 to be made new in the attitude of your minds; 24 and to put on the new self, created to be like God in true righteousness and holiness.”
I’m no bible thumper (Well, not anymore, obviously!). But, it’s still full of knowledge and wisdom that transcends religion and can provide a healthy lesson here and there. I was looking for quotes about shedding the old ways (outdated beliefs, bad relations, etc.) looking on to experiencing new things and embracing new ways. That got me thinking of what I had to recently do in order to move on past a bad family situation. I was estranged from my family for over three years because of my choice to embrace my new life as a pagan and that my loving partner (I’ll call him G) was not accepted by my family. Someone managed to find me online and reached out. I figured that cooler heads will prevail and I re-established contact. Two weeks later, my aunt passed away. I was grateful the Holy Divine gave me opportunity to speak with her and tell her I love her before she departed this world. My aunt was the only link I had to the rest of my family. I found out recently that she was very sick (spinal stenosis) and that she passed quietly in her sleep. I’m also grateful that she crossed over painlessly. I’m shedding the last of the old me. The connection has been severed. That chapter in my life is finished. Scared as I am, I’m embracing the new and accepting the truth: my family has no place in my new life and I have no place in theirs. I wish them the best and ask the Holy Divine to guide and bless them. That’s all I can really do.
I performed a detachment spell last night. I visualized myself in a meadow with a flowing stream and in my hand was a piece of paper. For each family member I detached myself from, it would burn up and the ashes would fall into the stream and float away. Then a new piece of paper would appear and I perform the spell again. This happened 6 times. I saw myself wipe my tears and fling them into the stream, carrying away my sorrow. Then I took off my clothing and flung into the stream, carrying away my guilt, the heavy burden of maintaining something that was no longer meant to be. Finally, I turned my back and walked away, naked and free.
I now feel a sense of ease. I’m no longer burdened by it anymore. I encourage everyone to pray, meditate, light a candle, cast a circle, commune with your god and/or goddess. Whatever you need to bring out the stream of consciousness that lives within. I will close with another good quote from the bible: 1 Corinthians 13:11-13 (Contemporary English Version):
11 “When we were children, we thought and reasoned as children do. But when we grew up, we quit our childish ways. 12 Now all we can see of God is like a cloudy picture in a mirror. Later we will see him face to face. We don’t know everything, but then we will, just as God completely understands us. 13 For now there are faith, hope, and love. But of these three, the greatest is love.”